USING BUSINESS TO FEEL WORTHY?

 

 

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Hi, this is Rachel bringing you today’s transformation conversation. Are you using your business to feel worthy? I’ve just come back from a week in California, Venice Beach. I’ve been spending a lot of time with some really, really cool people, going deeper into the nature of what I call the fearless understanding. We’ve been looking at the nature of how the mind works and how life works. I saw a lot of stuff there. When you take some time to just be with it, you tend to have a richer experience. When your mind is quiet enough you can really see some new stuff! When you work with somebody else who understand this, you can see more about what’s really going on for you, what’s really getting in your way and all of that kind of thing.

 

I had a really transformative experience and I watched others have deeply transformative experiences as well, which is why I’m so excited about this work. It’s like nothing I’ve ever done before. Rather than being a superficial, psyche you up, fix you for the moment until the next problem, this stuff changes lives. That’s really exciting. I want to share a little bit of what I’ve seen with you there about being in business.

 

What if your business was nothing to do with how worthy you are or how you feel? Now, this is a big one because I see so many of us, and I certainly include myself in this category, as being dedicated business owners, or entrepreneurs, or coaches, or whatever we are. We just immerse ourselves in business. We think that it’s because we need to work hard to get what we want. We need to put in the hours, which is fair enough. We need to put in the hours, but so many of us lose sight of what we’re actually doing and why we’re building our business. It really looks to me now like so many of us are searching for self worth through growing our business. The problem with that is you can’t find self worth by growing your business. It doesn’t just suddenly arrive. Self worth is available to you right now when you know where to look.

 

When you have a misunderstanding about how your mind works, you may very well be off living in the future, building your business thinking that when you get to X you will feel worthy, or you will feel happy or you will feel successful. Or whatever it is that’s your thing. Whatever that niggle is. That habitual thinking that you have about yourself where you’re not good enough. Or if only you had this… That’s one thing.

 

Another thing is … I got this in a big way though because one of my fellow coaches was sharing this for himself and I thought it was really true for so many of us. Now, what if you think that reaching more people, which is such a common way of talking in our helping professional type industry, right? “I want to reach more people.” What if that is also just an ego boost? Or a way to help yourself feel good about you? It’s not that I’m saying you shouldn’t reach more people, but I’m just questioning why do you want to reach more people? If it’s because you’re after a feeling of self worth, of, “I want to serve people.” You have a misunderstanding and you think it’s because that’s where your wellbeing is. You’re going to be really disappointed. No matter how many people you serve you can’t get that feeling. You can get a temporary boost, or an ego boost. You can get a temporary feeling of, “Wow, I’m doing a great job.” If you think that that’s going to change your experience of how you feel in life then it’s not.

 

That’s what I want to wake you up to. That’s what I want to help you with by sharing this. This isn’t the easiest stuff to explain by the way so if you don’t get it straight away it’s okay. There’s a lots of Podcasts on the blog. There’s lots of material that I’m sharing. I also have various ways for you to work with me so that you can explore this and go deeper. I’m sharing it because it’s important. I don’t want you spending your life chasing something that isn’t there.

 

Now, what if you were free to grow your business, and go about your life without the pressure of thinking you need it all to be a certain way for you to feel good? That sounds simple, but it’s absolutely huge. Both the good and the bad news I suppose of what I’m pointing you to, is that this is really how the mind works. You can be free right now to grow your business and go about your life without getting caught up in all your thinking about what you need to be happy, to be successful, to be okay. It’s available to you right now; when you know how to get out of your own head, out of your own psychology and let yourself settle down and just see what really is true and not what you’re making up.

 

If you’re consumed by business, and if you are you’ll know what I mean. You’re always on your phone. You’re always on your computer. You’re always at your desk. You’re always thinking about business. Even when you’re off you’re thinking about your business. You may kid yourself into thinking that that’s because you’re ambitious, you’re determined, you’re persistent. You are going to make it happen. I’m not saying there isn’t a place for those qualities, but it’s the place that they come from that makes all the difference. If you’re so consumed that you’re missing your life, then I really feel an urge to help you get out of that. It’s not a fun place to be and it’s not a great way to live.

 

You can be free to build your business to whatever level you want to build it to, but you can actually really, really have a great life now too when you understand this. If you think that being consumed by your business because you need to be is the way to go, then I really just invite you to take a deeper look at what’s really going on for you. It may be that you’re hiding behind your business. You’re using your business as a kind of therapy. Or as a kind of way to block out feelings that you don’t like. You think that your business is some kind of vehicle that one day when it does what you think it should do, you will then be happy.

That’s … How can I put it? That’s crappy. That’s a crappy way to live. I’ve lived that way and I’ve had periods where I’ve really been in that. I haven’t known the truth of how life really works. I haven’t known how the mind really works. Ninety nine percent of personal development doesn’t teach you that. It points you to looking at how to be better, how to fix your already broken self. That’s kind of like the premise of personal development. No wonder there’s not much freedom in it really.

 

To wrap up, as I said, I’d like to invite you to take a deeper look at what’s really going on for you. There’s no solution to a feeling. I’ve seen that clearly now. If you’ve got a feeling that you don’t like, whether it’s not being worthy, like the kind of imposter syndrome. “I’m not good enough. Goodness if someone finds out the truth about me …” It doesn’t matter how successful you are externally, right? A feeling is there. That is simply because your thought process, your patterns that you’re running in your mind are immediately translating into that feeling. It’s just your thought in the moment. You can literally just stop thinking it. The problem is many of us have these long-running psychological toxic patterns and we don’t know how to get out of them. I’ve had a lot of success with this now working with clients in this, what I call, fearless understanding. Showing them how to free themselves mentally so that they can really enjoy their life and do what they want to do.

 

I’d like to share more of that with you. If you’d like to go deeper and explore this with me, we can have a real live conversation, me and you, completely private. We will talk about what’s bugging you, what’s getting in your way. Those things that they just keep coming up for you. It doesn’t matter what you do, you can see that it’s not fixing it. It doesn’t matter how many clients you get, how many clients you don’t get, how many sales you make, how much marketing you do, how pretty you look on your website, what copy you tweak, how you do anything or what relationship you have. You can see that there’s something deeper than that that’s getting in your way every time. That’s what I’d love to help you with.

 

If you’d like to take up my invitation you can apply for a fearless transformation conversation with me at www.RachelHenke.com/conversation. All of the instructions and how it works are on that page. If you’ve got any questions you can pop your details into the pop up box; the contact form at the bottom of the website. Or you can email info at RachelHenke.com and we’ll be happy to help you. Have a great day. Thank you. Until next time.

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