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Hello and welcome to this week’s transformation conversation. This podcast today is a follow on from last week’s How Do You Know When It’s Intuition? If you missed that one then you can go back at the blog and find that, or look on iTunes on the podcasts.
Today’s podcast is called Will Trusting Your Intuition Make You Lazy? This is a fun one because I notice that ideas often strike for these podcasts when I’m having a coaching conversation with a client. This may be the same for you if you work with clients, or certainly if you have customers or clients of some kind. You’ll notice that there are patterns of behaviour, patterns of fearful thinking or worries that your people have that just repeat themselves, and you hear them a lot in different conversations, or in different ways that you connect with them.
I like to address these because they’re obviously real things that are really going on, it’s not just me making up stuff that I think might be helpful for you. The stuff I’m sharing with you in these podcasts is based on real client work, on real interaction with people who are on their journey to become more fearless, to have a better experience of life and/or business or career.
This one about will trusting your intuition make you lazy is a really interesting one because on the one hand, I notice that my clients really love the idea of trusting their intuition, or trusting their wisdom, whatever you want to call it, and having a more effortless life, if that makes sense. More effortless, less effortful, more flow and ease in their lives. We all want this, right? But for some reason we think that it’s impossible to really have that, or if we experience it, we can quickly take ourselves out of it because it feels too good.
I often have clients say to me, “Can it be this easy? Is it okay that I feel this good?” I have had that one a lot, and it makes me giggle because yes! Yes! We don’t have to suffer all the time. We’re not designed to live in constant suffering. We’re human beings, and we have thoughts that make us feel like things are really hard, and we have thoughts that make us feel like things are really fun and joyful, and we have experiences that really knock us for six, really knock us back.
We have experiences that just blow our minds with how amazing life is, and that is the nature of our experience. Trying to change that is just like trying to change the weather. It’s like trying to change what is, but that’s how it is. So when things feel easy for you, enjoy it. It’s perfectly fine, and it doesn’t mean that you’re lazy.
We’ve been indoctrinated over hundreds of years to think that to do well we need to suffer. To do well we need to work really hard, we need to have a lot of discipline, and if it feels too easy, there’s something wrong in it.
This is how I see trusting your intuition, because trusting your intuition doesn’t mean that … I mean, it may mean this, but in the way that I’m meaning it, it doesn’t mean that you have to go and meditate for five hours a day and take yourself out of life, and be completely Zen all the time and not do anything that may take you out of the zone.
In a way, this is how I used to think it would be. I used to think that when I figure out how to be in the zone more, when I figure out how to be more connected to my wisdom, and follow my intuition, and be more peaceful in that way, I needed to somehow protect myself from what was going on in the world. Of course, that doesn’t work because we’re in the world. We’re living. We want to have lives full of adventure, and experiences, and people, and we want to live our lives fully.
This podcast is to help you see that you can follow your wisdom and, like I say, the last podcast was about how do you know when it is your intuition, you can do that and it doesn’t make you lazy. It’s like, if you’re someone who is going at the speed of light in your business, and you’re very much a go-getting high achiever who doesn’t take a breath and are possibly near burn-out, then your intuition, when you finally slow down enough to actually hear it, may tell you to slow down and be a little bit lazy … if that’s what you want to label it. It may tell you to take a break for your own good.
What I’ve seen in the work that I’m doing, and with my clients, is that it’s not that it makes you lazy, it makes you smarter. It makes you show up more authentically because you’re not running around like a headless chicken, trying to do all these millions of things that you think you should do, and that everybody else is telling you to do.
Actually, it frees up tonnes of your time because you’ve got this quiet voice available to you, when you’re quiet enough to hear it. You’ve got it there all the time. I think of it as a kind of Wi-Fi streaming connexion that’s always available. It just simplifies your life. It simplifies everything, because you don’t have to get lost in all this overthinking about what you should be doing, how it should be, and if you’re doing it right.
If anything, I think that gets in the way of our productivity. That can make us feel really busy, but absolutely not productive. And you know what I mean. If you’re clicking all the different buttons, you’ve got a lot of tabs open, you’re responding on social media here and there, your thoughts are going a mile a minute, and at the end of the day you think, “What did I actually get done?” That’s a way to really slow down your productivity. It doesn’t feel lazy, it feels like you’re doing a lot of stuff, but it’s busywork. It’s not high quality productivity. This, in my experience, allows you to live a more peaceful life while being very busy, or while being very relaxed, in your time off, or whatever it is that you’re doing. Just knowing that you can follow this intuition, and you don’t have to chase your tail and be busy every minute of the day to be a good business person, or a good professional whatever it is you do.
But if you label yourself lazy, that’s your thinking. What is lazy? Is it lazy to not be thinking about your work all the time? Because there’s a lot of guilt comes into that, and people think that if they’re not thinking and worrying about their work all the time then they’re doing something wrong. It’s as if, for certainly high achievers, it’s like we often think that we need to be thinking and worrying all the time in order to have something done, and actually it’s the complete opposite.
Because when you clear your mind, and let yourself take a real break from your incessant overthinking, that’s when the good solutions, the good ideas, the fresh thought, comes into your mind. And you know this. And if you don’t know it, pay attention. Watch what’s going on for you this coming week, with your busy, frantic thinking about what you should be doing. A lot of it is just you thinking about what you should be doing, as opposed to actually doing it. Or, thinking about a thinking you’re having about what you’re not doing, and how lazy you are, if that’s your crazy. If that’s your thing that you tend to get stuck in.
The guilt isn’t at all helpful, and it’s completely made up, the same as you being lazy is. I want you to just look out for this. See what the patterns of your thinking are, and see where this is showing up for you.
Do you have a fear that if you’re not constantly in action, and thinking about what you should be doing, and worrying about what you should be doing, and working every spare hour, that you will be somehow lazy and not producing? Because it just doesn’t look that way to me.
If you are in the business that you’re in, or in the career that you’re in, you’re in it and you’re clearly motivated, if you have a tendency to be an over-worker, over-thinker, high achiever. Or you may not think of yourself as a high achiever, but you have big ambitions. You think about your work a lot. You really want to do well.
It’s very unlikely that you’ll suddenly become lazy just because you have a smarter, clearer connexion to your intuition. Your intuition will guide you so that you can be more productive, have a more enjoyable experience of your daily life, whatever that consists of.
I hope that’s been helpful for you. There’ll be more podcasts connected to this theme, because it’s a really popular one. If you’d like to hear more from me, please go to www.RachelHenke.com where you can get on the ezine list and receive updates of new podcasts and other goodies. I’ll speak to you soon. Thank you.