Here’s what today’s new Transformation Conversation, “What To Do When Fear Strikes” covers:
- Why fear feels so real – the good and bad news
- How to stop wasting your energy putting out imaginary fires
- Why stress isn’t as necessary as you might think
- How to stay motivated without stress
- What to do when the fear strikes
Resources for this episode
New Free Class, ‘End Stress, Overwhelm & Feeling Not Good Enough To Be Super Successful‘
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Hello, this is Rachel bringing you today’s Transformation Conversation. What to do when fear strikes? The problem when fear strikes is that it feels very solid, which makes it seem real and true. The good news is that it’s not real and true. It’s just made up of your personal thoughts, which although not a pleasant experience is not fatal!
The not so good news is that unless we really see this truth clearly for ourselves, we operate our entire lives as if fear is real and solid. We go about putting out imaginary fires and this creates a pattern of imaginary firefighting throughout our lives. Our stress levels become very high because we’re always on alert for the next fire. When’s it going to strike? We feel the adrenaline coursing through our veins because we’re on this high alert. We’re in this high alert state and it comes the new normal for us.
When you live in a state of high alert much of the time when there’s nothing to fear, which is most of the time, it can feel like something’s really wrong even when everything is perfectly fine. Our natural state is to be fine and we don’t need to be in a high stress state at all. Contrary to popular belief, we don’t need feelings of stress to make us do stuff. We can do stuff extremely well by simply wanting to do that stuff. How funny is that?
If you don’t want to do that stuff, then I invite you to reflect on whether you’re working on the right stuff? Perhaps you’re working on the wrong stuff and that’s why it’s just so hard for you to do it in the first place. That’s why the fear keeps coming up for you. It makes perfect sense, so why do so many of us just not see that? We think fear is either telling us not to do something, it must be a sign. When in fact, yes it is a sign, but it’s a sign that our thinking is fearful. We’ve got lots of fearful thoughts whizzing about our head and because of that, we’re unable to see clearly. That’s the only sign it is.
I found the best thing to do when fear strikes is to hold off on the imaginary firefighting; what if you didn’t react so fast to put out this imaginary fire? Just sit with your fear a bit. It won’t kill you, I promise. It’s just thought. Start to notice how the fearful thoughts impact your feelings and let them pass on by. If you don’t give them attention, ie. if you resist the temptation to be in this constant pattern of firefighting and fixing something that you have made up, then the fear will pass just like a cloud passes of its own accord after a storm. There’s nothing for you to do to fix that after a storm but watch the cloud pass by.
I hope that’s been helpful for you today if you’re getting yourself a little bit worked up and feeling fearful. There’s a lot of fear and uncertainty in the world at the moment and it’s easy to really start believing that that’s truth, when actually we’re all living in our own thought created realities. It can just make things feel really, really difficult when we lose sight of that.
Thanks very much for listening and I’ll see you hopefully on the fearless class or on the next Transformation Conversation.